My husband and I did not date, like most people (even Christians!) nowadays do. We courted. Yes, you read that right. We courted. It was a very fun time of getting to know each other and preparing for our wedding.
Even though most people use the words "courting" and "dating" in same way, there is a big difference. Our courtship wasn't a traditional courtship, because our parents were not involved. Usually the parents pick a good candidate for marriage for their child and talk to the other party's parents. If the parents agree, and if the 2 people involved agree, the courtship starts. During the courtship, either party can come to the conclusion that this isn't the person they want to marry, which is fine. From what I've heard, this is very rare though.
The biggest difference between courting and dating is this: When you court someone, you are preparing to marry that person, while with dating it's basically just for fun. There's no perspective on marriage or on a future together. Also, during courtship you are not supposed to be alone. My husband and I were chaperoned for 3 months and although it was very hard at times, it helped keep us honest and pure until our wedding night.
It was so fulfilling to finally kiss him at our wedding, knowing that we did the right thing and that we did what pleased the Lord. When we have kids, no dating for them - courting is the way to go!
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That is so neat! My husband and I dated...for far too long...before we got married but oh it was worth the wait! We had a fairy tale wedding in Ireland 5 years ago.
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